Thursday, July 28, 2011

Be Kind to Yourself


Okay, here I go...I am not a Super Mom! Not only do I like to draw and create lovely works of art I am also an avid journaler. I love to journal. I have many, many, journals that I have written since I was 18 years old. When I found a site about art journaling I knew it was for me. Though this may not look like an art form, my page above, it is part of my art journal and yes, it is in black and white. I did this page out of a need to self-medicate.

 I was feeling a little upset and very depressed when someone said that I wasn't the type of person that appeared to be very helpful to others. I wrote out my feelings and also some of the ways that I do help others. One lesson that I learned was to not believe everything that I hear. Others do not really know what I have inside of me, and no one can "see" or "hear" of every thing that I do. Only one person can make a correct judgement of us as individuals and that is the Lord God Omnipotent.

He is the only one who knows our hearts and minds and "sees" every good thing we do. He can also help us to know ourselves by bringing to remembrance every good thing we have done to help another soul.

 It is a very hard thing to hear when a friend or acquaintance says critical things to us, even if they are true to that person.

 Sometimes we are not ready to hear the seemingly helpful comments and it can be devastating if we don't have on our
 "rubber suits."
 (My new and improved, rubber suit is put on everyday now. The improved part is that it makes all those "bad" and "hurtful" things bounce off with much gusto! This suit is going to save me from kicking myself to hard)

So, I wrote out in my art journal several of the things that I do to help others, and since you probably can't read the words
 I will share some of the kind things
 I do to help others.
I give people rides to places, I smile at people, I say hello, and compliment their choices in clothing, I offer kind words, I teach lessons in church after much preparation, I make meals for people when they are in need. I try to find others to help a person when I am not able to do it myself. I say a prayer and ask for God's help.

Above all, I do what I can and if I can't help then I just can't, and that is okay to, because there are others that can help too. I can't do any more than that. I do my best and that is sufficient.
 Please, be careful when you find yourself judging others. It is not ever the way you think it is. That is why it is not for us to judge others unless we can do it justly. And whom among us can do that?

Here is a picture of a saying that goes with this post:
from MyConcreteSky


Graham said...

Hey Shari,
I think you are a very helpful person and I like your blog. You write very well. :) I can't remember if I gave you a link to my blog but it is

I haven't done much with it lately, but the Thanksgiving post I did last year was pretty good. :)

Erin Currie

Tam said...

What a terribly hurtful, unkind thing to say to you... and what deep truths it caused you to discover. Truths I could paint all over my walls in hopes of absorbing (my husband just started hiding the paintbrushes, it seems like such a great idea!). So glad you journaled AND posted about it. But sorry that you were hurt. {hugs}